It's interesting that people who used to be known aren't known anymore. The speakers at conferences like this when I was in my 20s aren't speaking anymore. People come and go.
My grandad's dying words were, "Don't let them forget me." How many of us know our great, great grandparents.
You will die sooner than you think.
You will be forgotten.
You will only be remembered by the people who know you now.
When we talk about legacy and being known, the power that you have, the moment that you have is now with the people you are with now.
When you see how much time you have left, you get serious about the time you have now.
I told some new parents that as soon as your child is born, you should put a suitcase in the nursery so that you can remember that you're packing their bags from day one.
This is not a new concept. PSalm 90:12 - Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.
I'm not sure I know what a heart of wisdom is, but it's probably the opposite of stupid. ANd if you don't want to b e stupid, look at the time you have left in relationships.
When you see how much time you have left, you tend to make what matters matter more.
I think some of us get tired when we start thinking about our time. It makes us feel pressure.
We can talk about all kinds of things with kids, but there are a few things we really want them to walk away with, but you can't make them have those things.
As church leaders, we get confused about what we can and can't do. We think we can force kids into believing or something, but we can't. So we have to focus on the things we can do.
You can't make a kid love God, but you can demonstrate the love of God consistently.
You can't make a kid come to church, but you can make environments that make them want to come to church.
Focus in on the things you can do.
You can't see the immediate results. We're programmed to see what the win is.
You keep doing it because you trust that God is going to do his part.
We get confused between our part and God's part.
I am not God. I am not the Holy Spirit. I cannot change anyone. But I can love a few.
The reason you can't see spiritual growth in a kid's life is because it's spiritual.
The reason you can't measure progress sometimes is because it's so gradual.
My daughter has been an artist since she was two. She painted on the walls, on the tables, on our car. I just remember somewhere along the way the last few years, and her senseless art that didn't make sense started becoming more sophisticated and intricate.
You go back in time to when she was 2 or 3 or 4, I wasn't imagining the end. I had no idea there was a secret to life and legacy, and it's simply what time does over time.
When you look at time, you start seeing what can result if you continue to invest over time.
When you see how much time you have left you tend to value what happens over time.
When you take certain things and put them over time, it makes a difference.
How do you know God loves us? Because He loves us over time. Redepmtion could have happened the day after the garden, but I think he didn't because He wanted to prove he wanted a relationship with us. So he began to pursue a people, even when they rebelled, until finally he sent His Son.
When you take love and put it over time, it's believable.
How do we love? How do we convince people we love them?
The only way we can do it is consistently predictably over time.
We say it this way, "Love over time gives someone a sense of worth."
We're living in a generation of people who don't understand their worth and value, and they need to be known and valued by people who know God so that they know tehir value.
Fun over time equls connection.
Stories over time give connection.
Tribes over time give people a sense of belonging.
When you take something and put it over time, it changes the impact.
When you see how much time you have left, you tend to spend more time with a few.
Inheritance is what you leave for someone, legacy is what you leave in them.
Fame lives for applause, legacy lives to give applause.
Legacy is less about you and more about others, how you spend time with others.
Collectively the time you spend with a few leaves a legacy with them, and you begin to understand the people you are investing in is the greatest gift.
Until a person is known, they can't understand what it means to be loved.
You can't be forgiven by someone who doesn't know you. You're forgiven by people who have history with you.
Leaving a legacy has less to do with sometimes what we think about. Leaving a legacy, I think, has less to do with being magnificent and has more to do with being ordinary. I think it has more to do with being dependable than being remarkable.
A legacy recognizes and understands that you have a limited amount of time, and you'll have to step out of that at some point.
Doin't forget that you only be remembered by the people who know you now.